By: Christine Varichak
When Elizabeth Smart (age 14) was returned home after being repeatedly raped and tortured by her captors for nine months of “living hell”, her Mother, (we all know our moms love us more than anyone on this planet) spoke the most profound statement to young Elizabeth. She could’ve stuck her in therapy for the rest of her life, allowing Elizabeth to victimize what happened to her for the rest of her days (no one would’ve blamed her). Instead, she empowered her only child. She said, “Elizabeth, what you’ve been through is terrible, and you may never feel like restitution is made, but the best punishment you can give them is to be happy.” Elizabeth is now happily married, spiritually secure, and a thriving advocate against pornography and abuse. She is helping other girls recieve healing.
While I believe strongly in not labeling myself a “victim”, (I was in an abusive marriage for 6 years);I also believe recognizing what abuse has happened, is absolutely necessary to begin the healing process. How could Elizabeth help others if she refused to give her testimony? How could she relate to young women if she wasn’t willing to admit what this man and his wife did to her? Joyce Meyer who is a public figure and advocate for abuse surviviors was repeatedly raped and manipulated for almost her entire childhood (ages 6-17), and guess what her biggest testimony of healing is? Her ability to recognize and confront (her Dad) what happened to her was “Not OK”. Then, she forgave him, and even took care if him in his ailing years. It seems in the Christian culture today, we want to ‘break free’ from the chains of bondage, quickly, never willing to recognize what occured was…’Not OK’. We’re skipping an essential step in our healing process.
If you have been hurt, abused, or manipulated; (haven’t we all in some way?) why not talk to God and tell Him…”That…what happened to me, was Not OK.”..And begin your proecess of The Best Revenge…Get better, heal, and be happy!
What if the Lord had not been on our side when we were attacked? When they were angry with us, they would have swallowed us alive.